Here’s an all too common scenario: Person A goes on a date with Person B. Person A believes they were able to get along well and had a great time. Despite seemingly positive signals on the date(s), Person B says they’re not interested in further dates. Or maybe they say they aren’t ready for or don’t want a relationship. You might never hear from them again after they vanish.
Person A internalises Person B’s behaviour as rejection and wonders, What went wrong? They replay the dates and the messages they exchanged before the accident, trying to find the point where they committed a fatal mistake. Am I saying something wrong? Did it happen? They seemed keen to get together again, and even discussed it. It doesn’t make sense; I don’t deserve this.
Here’s another also common scenario: You ask someone if they can do something, and they say no.
You will feel great about it. After everything I’ve done for them, they can’t even do this one thing. Or, Are…