People like to say that living together prior to marriage is smart. Wise, even. After all, our culture suggests taking a “test drive” before “purchasing”—which, in my opinion, is an incredibly unflattering and crude way to reference God’s gift of intimacy between a husband and wife.But what if you aren’t compatible, people argue. Some people say that living with your partner before marriage can help you learn about their quirks. It can show you your fiancé’s quirks and bad habits and give you the opportunity to decide if you can deal with them or not. We all have quirks, bad
habits and nobody can endure them for long without the security of covenant. The question isn’t “do they do things that bother you” but rather, “will I stay committed and faithful even though they do”?Other arguments for co-inhabiting include monetary gain. If you combine incomes and share the bills, you’re setting your marriage up to be stronger financially. Maybe on paper that’s true, but the flip side is that this combining of resources and responsibility before things are…
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